Often such children and their parents are shrouded in secrecy in order to maintain the integrity of the court proceeding, and with limited resources available for support they often go through the legal process.
If you would like to send a card to Purple Angel, Little O and their mother, they can be mailed to:
Purple Angel & Little O
c/o The Mama Bear Effect
PO BOX 190
Pinehurst, MA 01866
**Please note we will not be able to forward material items until after the case is complete in order to protect the authenticity of their testimony.
Cards will be screened to protect the emotional well-being of the family.
7 months ago, I was a stay at home mom to four beautiful children. I organized play dates, coffee dates, and homeschool activities. I volunteered as a Crisis Counselor and was in the process of opening a home for pregnant teens in the State we lived in. I went to church and spent every moment I could with my children and husband.
Until the day I stumbled upon my oldest daughter's 'Purple Angel' (13 year old) journal while cleaning. The first three pages detailed sexual abuse that had been done to her over the past 7 years. She didn't name her abuser, so while shaking and crying I called my husband who was with 3 of our 4 children. He immediately started driving home and I told him that I wanted to take my daughter away from the house for a little while so she would feel safe to talk to me.
After talking to her, I discovered that the abuser was my husband. My best friend. The man that adopted her at 7 years old when we got married. I spoke to my youngest daughter, 'Little O' when we got home and she confirmed that her father had also been raping her for the past 4 years. My oldest has since told us that she believes he began raping her sister even before that. Both girls were interviewed by forensic experts and their statements were taped. We turned in the journal, packed up our things and went to a hotel until my dad could fly out to where we were and drive us across the country to his home.
My other 2 children were sent to their biological mother, who had not had custody of them since they were 1 and 3. We haven't been allowed to speak to them since March because she's still allowing them to have contact with my husband and he hasn't told her that he's facing 12 separate charges or that the investigators were able to obtain solid physical evidence during a search warrant they executed at our home.We are now living in the same state as my father and my girls are devastated.
My oldest spent a week in the hospital due to her severe depression and anxiety. She doesn't sleep because her nightmares are so real to her, she has developed and eating disorder and began cutting herself as a way to ease her pain. She's no longer the happy little girl she once was. She lives everyday in fear that her Dad will come after her, take her away from her sister and I and hurt her again.
My youngest tries so hard to stay positive and happy but every night I hear her crying in the dark. She won't sleep alone so she sleeps beside me and some days she's afraid that if she goes to School, her Dad will come hurt me while she's gone. She desperately misses her siblings and although she understands that what her father did to her was wrong and wants him to face consequences of his actions, she misses him too.
In November, their father will face the equivalent of a grand jury and be indicted. Because we are a military family, my husband an active duty member and myself a veteran, and lived on base, the journal was turned in to military investigators and their court process is a lot different than a civilian process. The girls will not have to appear for this but will have to testify against their father when we go to trial. It's been a very painful, long road and knowing that this is just the beginning is at times hard to bare. I do believe that justice will be served and my girls and I will find healing in the days ahead.