The truth of the matter: abusers deceive adults just as well - if not better, than they deceive their target victims, so much so that most people's first reaction when a child discloses abuse is that it must be a misunderstanding or that the child is lying. Only a very small fraction of abuse is estimated to be fabricated, however, most survivors of abuse will talk about how many times they told someone before they were believed and helped.
With that said - every child, from infancy, deserves to know the correct words for their genitalia, without shame or embarrassment and feel comfortable talking with people about how their bodies function. And we adults have a responsibility to learn how to protect children from abuse.
Statistically, children that don't know about their sexual organs and proper sexual relationships are at risk not only to be abused, but also perpetrate abuse upon other children.
Children must be educated properly and openly by someone who isn't going to squirm because their 4 year old wants to know how a baby is born. Trust us, they'll still be innocent - just not as ignorant, which is a good thing.
We terrify them by putting them on Santa or the Easter Bunny's lap because watching children scream & cry out of genuine fear is "funny."
We leave them at their grandparents house or with a babysitter and tell them, "be good and do everything they tell you to do."
We think it's our right to control what they do with their bodies - because we know "best" - we don't, and we're actually teaching our kids that they do not even have the right to say no when it comes to their own body. And ironically, most people think children will have the foresight and power to say no when touching crosses a boundary, despite the fact that we've groomed them to "obey" their elders.
Other abuse prevention organizations promote this mentality: "before trusting someone with your child - ask yourself if you would trust them with your wallet." Because that's the truth - even well-educated, loving parents minimize the importance of qualifying who they allow to be alone with their children and trust people, without being cognizant of the possibility of abuse.
We wonder why the "news" focuses so much on celebrities and horrible stories - because, statistically - that is what we're "clicking" on when we go online. Most of us don't want to know what is really going on in the world, we want to be entertained. Which is why it is so shocking to most people when they learn that 1:4 girls and 1:6 boys experience sexual abuse as children. They even think that those numbers must generalize the idea of "sexual abuse" -they don't. The word "sheeple" exists for a reason - because too often, we accept what we're being fed by the media, without exercising our own powers of critical thinking or research.
Inspired by one of our supporters - "The river of ignorance when it comes to child sexual abuse is deep, and sadly - our children are the ones drowning in it."