Sexual abuse, especially involving children, hardly ever involves rock solid evidence to prove or disprove abuse. Most often it is based on the testimony of a young child - there is rarely physical evidence.
So when I hear people support Woody because "there's no evidence!" I just want to say - "hello naive person, there rarely is! Welcome to the world of protecting children from sexual predators!"
The typical claim from any abuser is that the child is either confused or, for some strange reason, making this all up. Because children - especially seven-year-old children, can conjure up things like their father putting his head in their naked lap & just breathing on them or having them lie down on the floor and feeling him put his finger inside her vagina. Generally, these are not things that young children can just "create" from their very wide imaginations. Most people won't believe that - they'll believe this child has indeed been sexually assaulted.
However, the problem lies when a mother suspects abuse by the father or a child discloses to the mother. (Truthfully, if a father is the abuser a child is better off telling a teacher than the non-offending parent because it reduces the "parental alienation" quotient - not entirely but partly.) All of a sudden, there is a plot twist - the mother must be feeding these stories to their child, brainwashing them to alienate the father. Sometimes, very very rarely - this is true.
I don't know about you, but do you know a child that can tell a really serious lie and convince people, in detail, something that isn't true? Sure a seven year old can say someone stole their jacket - when really they left it on the bus, but do you really think a seven year old can be brainwashed to detail sexual acts to the extent that Dylan recalled her abuse?
In a 1993 interview Woody addressed his feelings toward Dylan:
Mr. Allen conceded that he originally had no interest in children, ...But when Ms. Farrow adopted Dylan as a newborn in 1985, he said, it transformed him. "At that point, I just became what I consider a wonderful, wonderful father to Dylan. It became the single most important thing in my life."
and the situation with starting a sexual relationship with Soon-Yi:
Justice Wilk asked, "Wasn't that enough, that you would know that you were sleeping with your children's sister?"
Mr. Allen answered: "I didn't see it that way. I'm sorry."
(For the record, many sexual abusers feel that they do love their victims, this is not rare. This is why there is usually no physical evidence because they are not forcing themselves physically enough to bruise or otherwise hurt the child, but rather psychologically through fear and/or grooming. They also often do not see that there is something wrong in what they're doing.)
Dylan also said in a 2013 interview:
She calls her fears “crippling” and says, “I’m scared of him, his image.” Dylan tells Orth [the interviewer], “I have never been asked to testify. If I could talk to the seven-year-old Dylan, I would tell her to be brave, to testify.”
For the most part, Mia and Dylan have been very silent about the alleged abuse. Vindictive people are generally not patient, they're angry and they want their target to suffer.
Real victims generally want to forget their abuse as much as possible, they want to live a normal, happy life, and it would seem this has been Dylan & Mia's goal. But wanting to be happy doesn't mean that they can't and don't have the right to be angry. Especially when their abuser is also allowed to continue on with their life - and in Woody's case hardly skip a beat. So much so that he was given a lifetime achievement award complete with multiple top celebrities speaking of his genius and other talents.
So yes, sometimes victims are tired of this. They're tired of living in a world where people prefer not to believe them, or if they do believe - they want them to forgive and forget - which in their book means never talking about it again. Because when victims talk about their abuse it tends to make other people feel, well...uncomfortable. It would seem there is an empathy chip a lot of people are missing when it comes to supporting victims of sexual abuse.
Yesterday February 3rd, Stephen King tweeted:
He later tweeted an "apology" of sorts:
“the idea that she was molested was implanted in her by her mother.” Abramowitz continued that he doesn’t think Dylan is lying, but rather that she truly believes the abuse occurred because the memory was instilled in her at such a young age. “Everyone talks about the presumption of innocence; he is innocent,” Abramowitz insisted.
I have to say, that would be impressive. Less impressive but much more believable in Dylan's case and for the case of millions of child sexual abuse survivors - they're telling the truth. Because no one, no one wants to face the scrutiny, the labeling, and the outright isolation that Dylan & Mia have faced. So to all the survivors that aren't believed, or told to "forgive and forget" - for the sake of all the people out there choosing a pretty lie because "they're nice" "they're well-respected" "they done so much for charity"... keep telling the truth.
We'll leave you with this as a reminder:
(P.S. I'd say we're at the "violently opposed stage" - keep telling the truth!)